- Reference Number: HEY-923/2021
- Departments: Maternity Services
- Last Updated: 6 May 2021
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We are so sorry for your loss and recognise this must be an extremely difficult time for you. The purpose of this leaflet is to provide parents and families with the choices available to them with regard to a burial or cremation following a baby’s death, stillbirth or a pregnancy loss. This sadly maybe as a result of:
- A miscarriage – when a pregnancy ends unexpectedly up to 23 weeks and 6 days and the baby shows no signs of life.
- It may be that you have had to make a difficult decision to end your wanted pregnancy as a result of an anomaly.
- A stillbirth – when your baby has died from 24 weeks onwards, before the birth.
- A neonatal death – when your baby has died after the birth, before 28 days old.
We understand how extremely upsetting this time is for parents and their families and we hope that this guidance will inform parents and families of the choices available to them. A member of the midwifery staff or the bereavement midwife can support you with further information if required.
The choices available to you are:
The hospital can arrange for a cremation which is shared with other babies if your baby is born under 24 weeks. This is officiated by a hospital chaplain. In these cases, the cremation is authorised by the hospital, following your decision and consent. Your baby remains at the hospital in a safe and secure place up to until the next available service. The services are usually the first Wednesday of every month. Details of the mother remain confidential and are not provided to the crematorium. The cremation is recorded by a reference number, to enable any future enquiries. Following the cremation there are no individual ashes, the joint ashes are scattered or buried in the Baby Cemetery at the Chanterlands Avenue Crematorium. If you wish to know when your baby’s cremation will take place, please talk to the Midwife or the Bereavement Midwife. It is possible to attend the joint scattering of babies’ ashes when they are scattered which is usually a month after the cremation service
You can organise a cremation yourself by contacting a funeral director of your choice or Hull Bereavement Services. You will require a medical certificate to authorise the cremation and confirm the pregnancy loss if under 24 weeks. This is supplied by the midwife at the hospital or from your local doctor, if the loss of pregnancy has occurred at home. If your baby was stillborn, you will require a certificate to register the stillbirth before the cremation. If your baby died following birth, you will need to register the death before the cremation can take place. The bereavement midwife can provide you with further support on the registration process. Every effort will be made to recover ashes following a cremation, on rare occasions however (particularly with a cremation following early pregnancy loss) the recovery of ashes may not be possible. Your chosen funeral director will advise you further with regard to collection of ashes. The hospital is unable to contribute to the cost, however many funeral directors make a nominal charge or do not charge for their services in these situations. There may also be additional costs relating to the cremation – your chosen funeral director will be able to advise you on any necessary fees.
You can organise a burial but you will need to obtain the service of a funeral director of your choice or contact Hull Bereavement services to assist you. You are required to produce a medical certificate to authorise the burial and confirm the pregnancy loss if your baby was under 24 weeks gestation. This will be obtained from the midwife or doctor at the hospital or from your local doctor, if the loss of pregnancy has occurred at home. If your baby is over 24 weeks you will require a certificate to register the before burial. If your baby died following birth, you will need to register the death before the cremation can take place. The bereavement midwife can provide you with further support on the registration process. The hospital is unable to contribute to the cost relating to burial; again your chosen funeral director will be able to advise you on any necessary fees.
Private Burial at home/ private land
If you wish, you can take your baby home and arrange a burial on private land. If you choose the option to arrange a private burial there is important information for you to consider:
- The involvement of a local funeral director is advised
- You will need to take your baby home in a suitable container as your baby may lose fluid
- Once home your baby will need to be in cool, well ventilated room
- Your baby’s appearance will change and may become a dark purple colour
- Please ensure family pets are kept away from your baby
- Following discharge home, the midwife will inform the local police to avoid any misunderstanding
Legal requirements for a private burial
If your baby was under 24 weeks of pregnancy:
- There is no legal requirement to involve the registrar or coroner with a home burial unless your baby was born alive and died soon after birth
- Your baby must be in a sealed container with no risk of bodily fluid leaking into groundwater, surface water, water courses or adjoining land
- The container must be buried to a depth of at least 18 inches (45cm)
- Think carefully about how you will feel if you choose to move house
If your baby was 24 weeks and over:
You will require the services of a funeral director to assist with the legal documentation that is required.
- If you intend to have a burial on private land, discuss with your midwife or the bereavement midwife as there are certificates that must be completed before you go home. The form for the release of your baby will be sent to the hospital mortuary and a copy will be kept in your notes.
- Contact the Environment Health Department and the Environment Agency for advice with regard to the suitability of the burial site and the depth of the grave.
- Further information can be obtained from Institute of Cemetery and Cremation Administration ICCM
If you wish to arrange a burial on private land the legal requirements are:
- The burial does not cause danger to others
- You obtain permission from the land owner if you do not own the land.
- The burial must not interfere with any rights other people have on the land e.g. in the case of rented property.
- If the land is in a conservation area the appropriate authority will need to be consulted.
- Notification of the burial should be kept with the deeds of the property.
- If the property is mortgaged, the company needs to be informed prior to the burial.
- The burial may affect the resale of the property.
In all cases, the midwives and staff will ensure that your cultural and religious beliefs are respected. You may wish to contact for support, a representative of your own religion, however the hospital does have a chaplaincy team who can provide support to your family and you in hospital and at home. They can provide support for whichever service you choose for your baby. The contact details are below or the midwife can contact the team on your behalf.
If you require an urgent cremation or burial due to religious beliefs, the midwife or bereavement midwife will support you with this
Parents on low incomes: Parents on low incomes may be eligible for support with a funeral payment via the Social Fund, depending on their circumstances. Further information is available via https://www.nidirect.gov.uk/articles/funeral-payments
Listed are some helpful contacts for support:
- The Bereavement Midwives Team, Hull University Teaching Hospitals NHS Trust, Tel: 07990800223, office (01482) 608962 Hypemail@example.com
- The Hospital Chaplains, Tel: (01482) 675966 firstname.lastname@example.org
- Sands (Stillbirth and neonatal death charity) National Charity with an active local support group, providing one to one support to bereaved parents and monthly meetings. Local enquiries ,HullEastYorkshire@sands.org.uk , Facebook – Hull & East Yorkshire Sands. National enquiries Tel 0808 1643332 , email@example.com, sands.org.uk/app
- Miscarriage Association, support for women who have suffered a miscarriage (01924) 200799 www.miscarriageassociation.org.uk
- The Child Bereavement UK, resources for families who have lost a baby or child, including support with siblings 0800 028840 firstname.lastname@example.org
- The Compassionate Friends, a support network of bereaved parents 0345 120 8785 www.tcf.org.uk
- Child Death Helpline, A telephone helpline for anyone affected by the death of a child 0800 282 986 or 0800 800 6019 (free for main network mobiles)
- ARC (Antenatal results and Choices) The ARC Forum has been set up as a safe place to make contact with other parents who have lost a baby following a prenatal diagnosis. www.arc-uk.org 020 7713 73TWINS TRUST support for parents who have lost one or both twins, or babies from a multiple birth. email@example.com (01252) 332 344
- Multiple Birth Foundation, support for parents who have lost one or babies from a multiple birth 02033 133 519 firstname.lastname@example.org
Listed are some useful contacts for advice:
- Hull Bereavement Services, Provides information to parents and support (01482) 300 300 email@example.com
- Institute of Crematory and Crematorium Management 020 8989 4661 www.iccm-uk.com
- Arranging a Funeral, offer free expert advice on all matters of bereavement and arranging a funeral. www.arrangingafuneral.co.uk
- Funeral Map, provide help and advice on how to arrange a funeral 0330 2230 279 www.funeralmap.co.uk
- Natural Death, provide help and advice on how to arrange a funeral (01962) 712690 www.naturaldeath.org.uk